So it’s been 29 years since I was born. Well, not yet officially. That’ll be sometime around 10:15pm CDT tonight. Added up, that’s 10,585 days, 254,040 hours and who knows how many minutes. That’s a long time to be sure, and even though it’s relatively young for some people, it’s older than I thought I’d ever be around to see.
Most of the time, I’ve felt like I’m about five years ahead of myself, age-wise. But lately, I’ve been feeling like I’m approaching some sort of weird intersection. Now 29 doesn’t feel so far ahead of the mark. I’ve been married for four years to a woman I love more than anything, I’ve got a beautiful son, I’ve got a new house and I’ve got a great job. Somehow, I’ve managed to catch up to myself with what I wanted to accomplish and what I have accomplished. It wasn’t exactly what I set out to do, but in some ways it’s even better.
No piece of art, no song or film, no story that I could write, nothing can hold a candle to the creation of a life. There is nothing is more life-affirming than life itself.
My career—which I intended to make my life’s work—isn’t exactly a shining beacon of glamorous success, but I’m satisfied with it thus far. For being a creative person, I can say that nothing I’ll ever do will compare to having a family. No piece of art, no song or film, no story that I could write, nothing can hold a candle to the creation of a life. There is nothing is more life-affirming than life itself. My days of nihilism and brooding are long gone. I mean, really, what’s the point?
Now, just the idea of a new life from nothing is simply fascinating to me. I’ve never really asked my parents what that night in September so many years ago was like, maybe because I never thought to ask. But now I’m curious, and maybe I’ll do just that. Curious about what? I’m not quite sure.
Carol and I have now found out that we’re expecting our second child—something that neither of my parents experienced together. Have you ever wondered what it must be like to see your child grow up and have his own children? I can’t imagine it. Like I said, fascinating.
I look at my son, with his curly locks and beautiful smile and his gaze in awe at the simplest things, and can’t see what lies ahead. All I can hold on to is my love for him and the hope that I’ll do a good job of raising him to be a strong, intelligent man someday. It is my ultimate goal.
I’m starting to realize that there’s so much more to the world that I have to give my children. So much more than I’ll ever know. I love music, I love films, I love writing and I definitely love art. But what does that matter in the grand scheme of things? I haven’t been around the world, I’m not terribly political and I’m certainly not any sort of grand intellectual. I’m more the observer than the participant. That’s the way I’ve always seen it.
But at what point do I have to step in and take part? Sooner or later, my children’s future will depend on it.
On the way home a few days ago, I passed by an elementary school. As I drove by, I noticed an inordinate amount of cars in the parking lot for that time of evening. It could only have been that annual meeting of the minds known as “open house” where parents come to the school to meet teachers and see what their children are learning. It suddenly occurred to me that in about four years or so, I’ll be one of those parents.
The point is that I feel like I’m coming to another turning point in my life. One where it will no longer be enough to sit, watch and interpret. Now another step will be required. Now it’ll be sit, watch, interpret and take action. Perhaps some people have that instinct from the start, but I guess I don’t. I can’t say that I’ll become any sort of rabid activist, but I’m feel myself developing some hard and fast rules and principles—and wanting to do something about it. The idea that I really can have an effect on the world around me is actually kind of new to me. It’s a power that I never considered real, maybe because I never cared enough. But after twenty-nine years, that’s all changing.
Thanks to Michael Moore (Fahrenheit 9/11) and Kevin Smith (Jersey Girl) for their combined efforts today to help me further evolve into adulthood.